A friend of mine has been going through a rough patch recently. And here I am thinking THE SECRET. You know that tiny book that told us that we control every little thing, good and bad, that happens in our lives. A lot of people bought it. Oprah Winfrey endorsed it. And there we all thought there must be some grain on truth in it.
You went on an exercise of censoring your thoughts. Sometimes you went as far as detaching yourself from reality all in the name of positive actualisation. Yet we all seemed to come with a hard thud back to mother earth when we finally realised when our grandmothers said, ”bad things happen to good people when there are bad people around,” they knew what they were talking about.
Now think about this, your mother falls ill. Right. You have always thought of your mother beyond being sick. Your mother never falls sick. The thought of your mother falling sick is not something that would not even be a subconscious one.
Yet your mother has other children, which means that for your mother never to fall ill, you and all your siblings and your mother would have to believe her the healthiest person ever!
That’s a lot of people. Right? So here’s another one:
You and your girl have been friends forever. There is nothing this girl can do wrong! She is your hero, your backup, mentor, right hand, sidekick, your three-in-the-morning-I-need-to-talk call. You’ve resolved yourself to beings friends with this girl until you draw your last breath... then she stabs you in the back? How did you attract that drama?
You cannot control every person on planet earth with positive actualisation. Hell, you cannot even control your immediate social circle with positive thinking. Everyone has their own motives, their own paths and sometimes you win and sometimes you lose.
The thing is, you have to go in it with the best of intentions and play your cards the best you can and hope that something good will come out of all that situation.
Back to my girl. Her life was perfect. Everything was going well and she was happy and not for a second did she think it would take a solitary phone call to ruin her run of good fortune. She didn’t contemplate it, in fact, she was building and planning on the good fortune. So how did she end up with nothing?
Being positive is a good thing. Hell, it can even change people around you to some degree. But being realistic when things don’t go the way you want them to and realising that you can only do so much in a world filled with other people is even better. It is no secret…
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